A Look Back at the Four Patterns Throughout this series, we’ve explored four common relational habits that can subtly undermine your well-being: People-Pleasing:  Prioritizing others' comfort above your own needs, often leading to resentment and exhaustion. Perfectionism:  The relentless pursuit of flawlessness, often driven by the fear that if you make a mistake, you won’t be worthy of love or belonging. Conflict Avoidance:  Minimizing, ignoring, or fleeing from disagreement

You’re the dependable one—the person everyone can count on. You step in before things fall apart, notice what others miss, and hold everything together when no one else seems to. Being responsible feels like second nature. But lately, it’s starting to feel heavier. You might feel drained, unappreciated, or quietly resentful, wondering why doing the “right thing” leaves you so exhausted. This is the hidden cost of responsibility—when care and competence cross into over-functio

Welcome to your EMDR resourcing kit! The goal of resourcing is to help you build an internal foundation of strength and calm  that you can access immediately when you feel overwhelmed, stressed, or triggered. These resources are tools we use to help you stay within your Window of Tolerance —the state where you feel regulated and capable of handling challenges. 1. Guided Meditations and Stabilization Techniques These are direct links to guided exercises you can use to calm you

You said "Yes"  when you meant "No." You bit your tongue in a meeting. You gave in to keep the peace. In that moment, it felt like the right thing to do—a way to stay safe, keep the harmony, or avoid the stress of a fight. But that silence comes with a price. Avoiding conflict may seem like the safest choice in the moment, but it can quietly create imbalance, hiding resentment, unmet needs, and disconnection from yourself and others. While it may temporarily reduce tension,